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31 May 2014 @ 04:10 am
Gods, these parts of life that come from a soap opera  
Drama. Oh, gods, drama. Everyone was seeing it coming though; we're were literally staring at its face. Some context before I continue: Kae and Yaki are best friends. Until mid-2011, Kae was in a really bad state, mentally speaking, and Yaki was her clutch and the one who supported her, who was the mature one Kae'd look up to. She got really better since. It's not Yaki's case and for a little more than one year, her mental health has been seriously declining and their roles reversed.

Stuff happened recently leading to Kae really not wanting to see Yaki. So, Yaki arrived this morning and things had been building up during the whole day between her and Kae. Yaki's awkward half-assed attempts at making a conversation and failing so hard that she couldn't even keep a real conversation with me. Kae holding a grunge against Yaki and being her usual stubborn self. You see when there's so much tension you could almost touch it, that's that kind of situation.

Anyway we ended up going out to take a walk and speak about our issues: that's not the sort of thing to discuss in front of my parents but we needed to speak with her, again. And well, we sat on a bench and the big discussion happened (again). Very dramatic, really. Doesn't help that Yaki is sensitive and really emotional.

Now, I didn't tell my opinion on the whole thing, but I'm all on Kae's side. Because the problems aren't new. We already had that discussion months ago, and another one of the same kind even before. And Kae and Yaki do speak about their issues online, but it only seems to get worse. Also I've got issues of my own with her (part of it are linked with the reason Kae is cross with Yaki in the first place) but that'd be another post in itself XD

That being said, it doesn't mean we're being all gloomy and stuff. We're having a pretty good time overall and we're all looking forward to the live on Sunday which we're going to enjoy very much.
 
 
Mood: weirdweird
 
 
 
     Mandya_phoenixdragon on May 31st, 2014 02:40 am (UTC)
Ahh, bless, honey...tis terrible how family can fight like that (because friends who have disagreements on this scale, like this - yeah, they're family), but I'm glad it was still a good day for all that...

*HUGS*
Luo: Mordinluorescence on May 31st, 2014 03:14 am (UTC)
Yeah, it wouldn't be as awful if we weren't family. Then, we'd probably be able to walk away when we see that we can't seem to be able to help and nothing we do or say seems to work. It's very frustrating. We won't give up though.

Well, my day was good. I feel really bad for Yaki though since she's not very confrontational when Kae and me have Dean's tactfulness (doesn't go well with her sensitivity). When Kae was about to speak, she was literally trembling and on the verge of tears *winces* It didn't get better.

At least *sighs* everybody got mostly everything they wanted to say out and we spoke about the issues.

*hugs*
antliae_1antliae_1 on May 31st, 2014 07:23 am (UTC)
If you managed to talk, is it a good start? :/
Luo: Zeroluorescence on May 31st, 2014 09:38 am (UTC)
I don't remember if I already told you about my issues with Yaki. Because that's also Kae's and we've already spoken about her a few times...

Well cornered her mostly because she won't really speak about her problems and she doesn't know how to really deal with her emotions right now, and it's been eaten her from the inside for months and months now. </p>

And when we spoke, the things she's agreed to work on... It just doesn't go well. For example, we told her exactly how she can do to manage her money, simple things and advises that make it easier for her. It's been years and she still doesn't get it. I'm willing to believe her when she tells us she makes effort but then, when she went to Bordeaux to see Kae, she was all “don't have money anymore, forgot I had that bill!”. She won't even take her tickets in advance when traveling so she pays much more. All the small stuff that didn't get better with the years.

And it's not like that only with the money...

And sadly, except if we're with her everyday, talking won't do much *sighs* It still a good thing we can do it though, even if we're forced to corner her to get her to talk a little about her issues.

猿 | Yuan: 【ルフィ】dafuqflourflower on June 1st, 2014 12:00 am (UTC)
Hm. From what I know of the situation (which is very little), I don't think it was a good idea for both of you to tackle Yaki all at once. It probably would have gone much smoother if it was just one on one, especially considering she doesn't like confrontation. And as you said, you two don't have the best tact, so... I can't really speak on the subject, because I only know so much about Yaki, Kae and the situation.
But hope you guys are having a good time despite this little trouble.